I came across this video by Mel Robbins and it really made me think.
Do you self-sabotage? Hmmm… Let’s put it another way…do you stop yourself from doing to things you really want to do? Do you make excuses about the reasons why?
If so, Mel Robbins believes you may have some self-hatred going on and deep own you feel as if you don’t deserve it! Whoa!
It may not even be something you’re conscious of and could be something you picked up from other people around you. Especially if you’ve been in abusive situations. It’s actually a learned behaviour and can linger long after abuse has ended.
Have a watch…only 7 golden minutes .
Everyone’s version of self-sabotage is different but its about gaining awareness on what it means to you so you can identify it and stop doing it to yourself! Mel discusses that an essential key to stopping self-sabotage is indeed…TAKING ACTION! I won’t spoil the video any more. Go have a watch.
When I was exploring Islam, I always came across this idea of ‘sisterhood’. So it wasn’t surprising that when I embraced Islam I had the expectation of making the best bosom buddies, the special BFF that would eventually become like a ‘sista from another mother to me’.
So, for a few years I waited patiently to experience this.
But, it didn’t happen…
…or shall I say, it hasn’t happened for me.. yet.
However, I am feeling grateful that Allah sends me reminders of the shared love we can have for one another even those we have never even met. Something that I’ve been reminded of by writing this blog.
To me, true sisterhood is to care, accept, and support your sister spiritually and emotionally with love.
Recovering from unresolved trauma is like being stabbed in the back and the knife never being removed! You get so use to the knife being there that you forget it’s there until you sit or lie in a particular way and it triggers pain and bleeding.
Sometimes it’s a small pain. Other times its a sharp pain! You know, the kind of pain that tingles throughout your whole being.
You sometimes feel in a state of shock and confusion when its triggered because you didn’t realise sitting in that way would trigger the pain. But, you soon realise that the triggering is actually necessary to heal the wound where the knife is.
“Why, oh why?” Is a question you keep asking yourself. You wish it didn’t have to be this way.
I came across this a few days ago in Iyanla’s book, Acts of Faith. It has daily inspirational passages and I dip into it from time to time. Prosperity gets thrown around a lot at this time of year as people wish each other success and wealth in the new year.
But, Iyanla discusses that prosperity is so much more. This passage made me think about prosperity in a whole new way…I hope you enjoy and get something out of it too!
“If you have things to do and protect that you think others can take away from you, you are not prosperous.
If you are not comfortable with yourself no matter where you are, you are not prosperous.
If you believe others can take your ideas, your mate, your things, you are not comfortable.
Propsperity is a state of mind. When worry or fear crowd your mind, you cannot be prosperous.
If you know you will eat even when you don’t have a dime, you are prosperous.
When you can love and give all that you have, you are prosperous.
When you do what you love without pay or reward, you are prosperous.
When you do what you can because you can, not for the money only, you are prosperous.
When you love all people for who they are, not for what they can give you, you are a wealthy being.
Prosperity is a a state of mind.”
-Iyanla Vanzant, Acts of Faith
Much peace, love, blessings (and prosperity) to you all